Filmmaker Statement

I lost my virginity at 28. By choice. As a 20-something working in the creative industries in New York City, most men made me feel like a pariah. Years later, I’m only beginning to process this choice, its motivations, and how it affected my own sexuality. For all our recent conversations about consent, I’ve never seen a story like mine on film. Virginity storylines fall into two categories: the horny teen desperate to lose it, or the outcast who can’t get it. The truth is so much more nuanced, the behavior so much more interesting. This story is inspired by an experience I had with my first boyfriend, an art student who had also signed a True Love Waits pledge. We constantly pushed the boundaries of sexual behavior without actually “going all the way.” It was sweet, innocent, and torturous. My intention was to capture a raw, honest, and non-judgmental look at this behavior. For myself, and anybody else who decided to wait - whether that’s for marriage, or just until they were ready.